Friday 23 March, 2007

"LIFE IN GENERAL"



INSTANCES

Everyday we meet so many people. But why only a few are the ones we talk to? And again from those few, we are friends with another few…and we love even fewer? Is it something to do with the level of interaction with the people? Or is it just something superficial, like written in destiny that we are very close to only those people with whom we are supposed to be?

But in any sense, with each second we spend alive, we come across instances. Some seem insignificant, some even change our lives. Some make us happy some sad. But human mind cannot forget what it has captured ones. Mind is like software; you can access the data feeded even 50yrs back. And even if you delete the data (or presume you have deleted it, something like when people say I will forget you, or I never remember you), you will get new software, which will again help you retrieve the data. Like a new instance that make us remember the old one.

In my life I have met a lot of people. Few are my friends, and few I have loved. Few are very close to me. Some have hurt me a lot and some people are there whom I can never forget. There are certain instances, which I always remember. One of my friends is this crazy guy…who seems to be irritating when you first see him, but actually he is not. I was moving to Chandigarh from Delhi for a couple of days. It was very early morning when I came out of the house with bags. I saw him coming from a distance. He said he just want to say a bye to me, then he said he would drop me till rickshaw. Then near the rik he said he will drop me till metro station, then till isbt and then when we were sitting in the bus, I just said that I have never traveled long distance with any friend in my life…he suddenly got up and took a ticket for chandigarh…he went to chandigarh with me and came back the same day. Whenever I think of him I remember this incidence.

Another time, when I stood first in bcom second yr, we were having a party at noodles, my flat mates, and my roommate was literarily or physically absent from it. I didn’t know what she was doing. When we came back she vanished. We were all waiting for her to come back. And she returned with a cake on which it was written CONGRATULATIONS. I was so damn happy that I couldn’t even react properly. This was the first time I had received any surprise from my friends. I still remember that day. And also when I had an exam and in the morning she made magi for me. And whenever I used to leave Delhi while coming to me home, she will send a one cute little sms after half n hr or so. The sms used to be “I am missing you”. That’s it. And I know it really meant that she is missing me.

Once when one of my friends was having an interview I was sitting outside with another friend, eventually my friends brother only. I was listening to walkman and my battery retired. I was a bit upset about it. Some time after it, we went to convino-mall road petrol pomp’s super market sort of. When we came back, we were just sitting and I remembered that I had to take new cells for the walkie. And he gave me two of them. He had purchased them for me without even saying it, remembering that I had got my cells retired. It was very thoughtful of him. I still remember this one.

These are some of the good instances that I remember. There are bad ones also. My this friend was getting admitted to his dream college, in my state only. I was more than happy about it. And I was wishing that he would come to my home also. But unfortunately he never even called me up and ones when I called him up he never was picking up my phone. That was the time when I last tried calling him up. And then I see such stone hearted people talking about the fears in life, fearing of losing the loved ones. It simply makes me laugh.

There are some instances, which make you love one person. Some will make you hate that person. You will never remember even a single good instance with him, though you have spent hell lot of time with them. I also have experienced this. This person at one point of time the most dearest to me. Now I don’t want to even recall that I had even met him. But as I said, mind is like a computer, I keep on remembering that I had been so much sincere with these two people who ere using me, and now when they do not need me, they don’t even care to talk. It happens with almost everybody in life. At some point of time you get so much hurt, even then you keep on thinking about the same thing.
But happy past instances make us happy always. And everybody feels bad about the bad ones. Good or bad, some instances do touch our heart. And you can never leave that aside. You can never forget it. Well some other INSTANCES will not let you forget them. That’s like a vicious circle. You will get back to your past one way or the other.

7 comments:

Vivek Saini said...

hello niti

u have mentioned here dat how u remember[or u dont want to remember for dat matter]dose 2 ppl whose response was not appropriate as per ur expectations frm dem

dekho i myself havnt dug deep into such personal matters but keepin expectations high generally get ppl in such situations nd remember not expectin a thng made u feel happy ven one of ur frnds surprised u wid a congarulaions cake. had u been expectin d same it wdnt hav been a matter of such concern as it is now. like u expect a SMS frm a frnd while leavin delhi who regulary do dat nd doin such a small thng[sorry! i kno it is not a meagre SMS for u] makes u feel happy frm inside out nd if somehow she is stuck in some place nd is not able to send u a msg dis time...it ld make u sad in d first place coz of ur 'expectations'...but same thng can make u feel a lil concerned bout her nd help her out frm some bad phase if u think in a lil different manner. m not puttin forward dat expectations frm loved ones r bad but dey can cause troubles in relations such as new frndships[coz dere may b many thngs about d other person dat u dont kno by dat time]...atleast dis is wat ur article reflects to me other dan d fact dat ven u[u here means none other dan u, mind it dis is not a general statement] make frnds u make good frnds
hav fun wid ur frnds...enjoy :)

vivek saini

Vivek Saini said...

hello niti

u have mentioned here dat how u remember[or u dont want to remember for dat matter]dose 2 ppl whose response was not appropriate as per ur expectations frm dem

dekho i myself havnt dug deep into such personal matters but keepin expectations high generally get ppl in such situations nd remember not expectin a thng made u feel happy ven one of ur frnds surprised u wid a congarulaions cake. had u been expectin d same it wdnt hav been a matter of such concern as it is now. like u expect a SMS frm a frnd while leavin delhi who regulary do dat nd doin such a small thng[sorry! i kno it is not a meagre SMS for u] makes u feel happy frm inside out nd if somehow she is stuck in some place nd is not able to send u a msg dis time...it ld make u sad in d first place coz of ur 'expectations'...but same thng can make u feel a lil concerned bout her nd help her out frm some bad phase if u think in a lil different manner. m not puttin forward dat expectations frm loved ones r bad but dey can cause troubles in relations such as new frndships[coz dere may b many thngs about d other person dat u dont kno by dat time]...atleast dis is wat ur article reflects to me other dan d fact dat ven u[u here means none other dan u, mind it dis is not a general statement] make frnds u make good frnds
hav fun wid ur frnds...enjoy :)

vivek saini

impregnable : illusion said...

vivek..its really very good that you thought about the stuff. but there is a human factor to it, when you are in a relation then only you will expect from the person. you cannot expect a shopkeeper to sms you when you are leaving place. this is one thing that you expect only from frnds. see dont you expect happy birthday wishes from your friends or you u just sit back on your birthday. the level of frndship where one can understand and catch even a slightest variation from regular behaviour takes time to nurture and inderstand. my roomate, i understand her, if she does not call me i will know either she forgot or there is some prob. its not the case with newer relations.well thatx for the comments.

Vivek Saini said...

oh its totally upto u how u feel bout dese thngs but i still believe d same thng. i aint sayin dat culminate expectations but dont base ur relations on small expectations vich can cause a drift(in ur mind). atleast dis is wat i hav learned dat dese small grieviances dont vanish nd dey take dere own space in d subconscious where dey pile up one above d other. nd wat can u expect after dat, small thngs (vich may not b worth spoilin relation for at times)can prove fatal to good relations nd it all starts frm d time ven d relation was unripe to b tested undr weight of expectations.
nd above all its unique to evryone coz u r d person who knows best bout ur situation nd other parameters nd m nobdy to suggest u an approach. plz pardon me if i hav offended ne feelin in ne sense. may ur frnds b dere for u always.

regards
vivek saini

impregnable : illusion said...

thats not the case dear!!! u hvent offended me in any sense...but yes, from what i have written its just the glimpse of some phases of mylife. can be a common phase for lot of ppl atr one time or the other. its just some things which happen in life. its not about the way i think or expect. these are just facts which have happned. so just take it that way. m really glad you showed interest in this. i will be writing some thins more soon.

Vivek Saini said...

...i ll b waitin :)

Unknown said...

Hey !
Nice to read about your interactions with various kinds of people...